By far, one of the best techniques for getting your boyfriend back are taught by relationship guru Matt Huston. Check out this incredible Free Audio Clip on the first moves you should be making after your boyfriend breaks up with you.
How This Website Came About
I want to share my story with you. The fact that you are reading this right now, I suspect means that your own situation is similar to how mine was. I want you to take confidence from the fact that I was able to turn things around completely. If I could do it, you can too, and I’m going to show you how, just like I have shown hundreds of others before you.
BEING IN LOVE
My story starts like so many, I was in love. I was completely head over heels in love with a man, a wonderful kind caring man. He was the kind of man I had dreamed about meeting. He had many beautiful qualities, but the best of all was that he loved me back.
Being in love with someone who feels the same way about you, is the most amazing feeling in the world. Perhaps you have experienced that feeling as well? When I was with him, I felt like I was complete. When we were apart, it was like a part of me was missing. Although I didn’t know it at the time, that was part of our undoing, but I will get to that later.
We were together for three years when things started to go wrong. My man, I’ll call him James although that’s not his real name, started becoming distant. It wasn’t a sudden thing, it started, although I do know how. He started working late. At first, just a few days a week. But he started coming home later and later, and before very long, it was every evening.
I was convinced he was seeing another woman. I couldn’t understand why though. Everything between us had been so good. Why did he feel the need to start seeing someone else?
Of course, I confronted him over this, and at first he denied everything. We would end up arguing, and with time, the arguments became screaming matches, and one or other of us would invariably storm out of the house, and I always ended up crying.
BREAKING APART
I desperately wanted things to be like they were before. I wanted to snap my fingers and make everything right again, but I couldn’t do anything right. James started staying out all night. Then one horrible day, my worst fears were confirmed when my best friend called to say she had seen him out with another woman.
When I put that to him, he broke down and confessed all. He told me that yes he was seeing someone else. But the worst was yet to come. James then told me that he was moving out of the house, and was going to move in with this other woman.
As he spoke those words, it felt like he had plunged a knife into my chest, and cut out my heart. Everything that happened in the days that followed became a kind of blur. I felt a strange detachment, like nothing was quite real. My mind couldn’t keep up with the endless questions that were racing through it…Why had this happened?
What had I done to deserve this? Why me? Why now? What could I do to stop it?
Within a few days he was gone – he had taken his belongings and left. The last time he closed the door behind him, I collapsed on the floor, unable to control the floods of tears…the agony…the writhing pain in the pit of my stomach. I wanted to die.
I felt worse than alone – I felt like a huge part of me had been cut out and taken away. I was overwhelmed with a feeling of total helplessness. And still the questions kept coming…the biggest of all were “Why has this happened?” and “How can I fix this?”
LIFE BECOMES MEANINGLESS
In the weeks and months that follow James departure, my life quickly degenerated. My work suffered, my health suffered, and even my friends didn’t seem to want to be around me. Why would they? I was no fun to be with, I seemed to bring a cloud of gloom into any room I entered.
Those friends that I did still see tried to help, but they didn’t seem to understand how I felt. In fact, in their efforts to try and comfort me, they only seemed to make matters worse! They would say things like “He was cheating on you, you’re much better off without him” or “There are plenty more fish in the sea!” – I wanted James?! Nobody could answer the questions that kept me awake every night…Why did this happen? How can I fix this?
MY QUEST
Slowly I began to realize that if I wanted to get answers to those questions, I was going to have to get them myself. And so began my quest for the truth. It was a journey that took me half way around the world, as I sought out those who held the answers. Little by little, I learned some of the most fundamental secrets of life. Sometimes the truth was hard to bear. But by accepting it, I was able to move on step by step. As I applied what I learned, I turned my life around. I won back James, and I won back my life.
YOU CAN GET BACK YOUR EX
Now I am going to share with you the same life secrets that I learned. I am going to tell you the principals of life, what makes things happen the way they do. Then I am going to put everything together into a practical seven-step formula that you can put into practice to win back your ex, or save your relationship. And you’ll improve your life immeasurably at the same time.
Some of what I am going to share with you might seem a little difficult to believe, or hard to swallow. But I urge you to bear with me. Think about everything I say. Try what I propose. I have helped hundreds, probably thousands of couples. These teachings are based on fundamental truths, universal laws. They apply to everybody. You can choose to accept them, and work with them to your advantage, or you can choose to deny and ignore them, and remain powerless and unhappy.
Part One – Realize Your Power
The first universal truth that you must understand, the first step to turning around your life, is to realize that everything that happens in your life, happens as a result of you.
You create your own reality.
I mean this in every sense. You create your own reality on every level. On a physical level, everything you do shapes what happens around you. And at an inner level, the way you perceive what happens around you also shapes your reality.
This has profound implications. But before we get into those, let me help you better understand how you are in complete control of your reality.
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to be born lucky? Some folks win all the competitions, they seem to get all the money, all the good stuff life has to offer just seems to flow their way? And at the same time, some people seem to attract bad luck? The key word here is attraction. Everything that happens to you does so because of the universal law of attraction. This is something that is well understood by highly successful people. The law of attraction has created great fortunes. It has also created massive poverty.
The law of attraction simply states that you get what you ask for. If you believe strongly enough that something will happen, it will happen.
This is the basis of prayer. It is the basis of ‘wishing’. It is the basis of magic.
Every society and culture has it’s own way of packaging the law of attraction into something that is acceptable and believable, but the underlying universal law itself is the same.
But there is a big problem with this law. As I have said, when you believe in something strongly enough, it will become your reality. And the problem is that most people find it easier to believe that bad stuff will happen to them than good stuff. And so bad stuff does happen to them!
Think about this for a minute…Have you ever thought that something bad was going to happen, and then it did? This happens all the time!
Now you might be saying “I didn’t ask for my relationship to go wrong!” But the fact it did go wrong is evidence to the contrary. Take my own story as an example. James started coming home from work a little late. At first, it was once or twice each week. Although I didn’t know it (because I never thought to ask), James was hoping to get a promotion. He was working on a big project for a potential new client, and he wanted to make absolutely sure that he won over his client, in order to convince his boss that he deserved the promotion. Naturally this extra work meant he finished working late some days. That was his reality, and the reality of the situation.
In my mind though, I was already scared of losing James. He was the best thing that had ever happened to me, and deep down I felt like I didn’t deserve him. Although I was very grateful and happy that he was with me, I always had this little niggling feeling that somehow there was a mistake, that I didn’t deserve James. I worried that one day he would decide that being with me was a mistake.
So when he started coming home late, my immediate reaction was to think that my worst fears were being confirmed. I imagined all sorts of scenarios. He was seeing other women. He was laughing at my behind my back. He was planning how he would leave me. Every time he came home late, I would run these scenarios through my mind. Each time, they would become more and more real. I was more and more convinced he was cheating on me. So of course, when he did come home, I would bombard him with questions about where he had been. Why hadn’t he called? What did he thing he was doing? I never stopped to consider other, more positive possibilities. Now imagine this from James’ point of view. He was working late to try win a promotion, which would mean a better life for both of us. And yet when he got home after working hard, what did he get? A loving partner who asked how his day had gone? Who offered sympathy for his long hard day? No! He got bombarded with accusing questions! How do you think that made him feel?
The longer this went on, the more James started to question what he was doing. I was driving a wedge between us, and so when one day another woman did walk into his life, he seized the opportunity as a means of escape. In my mind, he was having an affair, and the terrible way I had acted drove him to actually start having an affair! I had created my own nightmare reality.
How different things would have been if I had not been the suspicious and controlling partner. If, instead of battering him with accusations when he got home late, I had instead offered support and comfort for his hard day, then when that other woman walked into his life, he would never even have given her a second glance! This happens all the time. I have coached countless people who have lost their lover, and in every single case, they have eventually been able to see that it was their own actions that created their situation.
And so even when we think we are acting in the best interests of the relationship, often we are working against it.
Human beings are essentially selfish creatures. We see things from our own point of view with ease, but we have difficulty considering other points of view.
Coming to terms with the fact that it was my own actions that had destroyed our relationship, was one of the hardest things I have ever done. Up until the time I learned and understood the law of attraction, I was convinced that it was James who had been at fault. After all, he was the one who had had the affair! But it was my own actions that drove him to it, and those actions came about as a direct result of what I thought about.
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A Simple Exercise
Action Point: If you are in any doubt as to the power of the law of attraction, and it is understandable – normal even – then here is something you can try today which will prove it to you. It is a very very simple experiment, but I urge you to try it, as it proves the concept, and this concept is fundamental to life, and to getting your relationship back on track. For the rest of today, I want you to picture in your mind’s eye that is, imagine an image of , an elephant. I am assuming that you do not have daily contact with elephants. Think about the elephant as often as you can, over the course of today and tomorrow. Think of an elephant before you go to sleep, when you wake up, when you eat, when you drink. Think of the elephant when you check the time, and when you brush your teeth. And over the course of the next 48 hours, keep your eyes, your ears, and your mind open, and you will without doubt, during that time, either see a picture of an elephant, see a real elephant, or hear talk of an elephant.
This is just a very simple demonstration of the law of attraction. How often do you see elephants? Not every day, I am sure. And yet if you concentrate hard enough, somehow an elephant will be attracted into your reality within 48 hours. You can repeat this experiment as often as you like, by thinking about other people or objects.
You’ve Already Done This
You probably already Done This
You probably already have practical experience of this same phenomenon. How often have you found yourself suddenly thinking about an old friend or relative that you have spoken to in ages, only to have them call you out of the blue the next day? This is the law of attraction in action!
The law of attraction applies to everyone. We are all created equal when we come into the world, and yet some people get all the good luck and others all the bad luck. Some make all the money. Success seems to attract success. Money goes to money. The reality is that lucky people aren’t any different to unlucky people. Luck is simply their reality! They are used to winning, they are sued to good things happening to them. That reinforces their beliefs, they expect good things to happen, and the law of attraction means that good things do happen.
Exactly the same thing works in reverse. Unlucky people expect the worst, and so of course, they are not disappointed. They attract bad luck.
When you accept the law of attraction, you must accept that you are, one way or another, responsible for the failure of your relationship.
The good news is that the very same universal law means that you are capable of saving that relationship. Later on, I’m going to give you the framework to do just that. But before I do, there are some other truths that need to be understood.
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